Oh no! She lost three of her fingers in such an avoidable circumstance!

As a prefect in my secondary days, I was coordinating a school activity for junior students when I noticed that a particular student had ugly scars in place of three of her left fingers. My heart was stirred. When I came into close contact with her, she told me about the incident that resulted in the loss of her fingers.

“The story I heard was that the incidence happened when I was a toddler. I was with my senior sister who was breaking a raw bonny lump of beef with an axe. I was told that she warned me not to collect the pieces of meat until she finished cutting. She had already hit my hand with the axe before she noticed that I suddenly put out my hand to collect a piece of meat. I lost three of my fingers” she explained.

Oh no! She lost three of her fingers in such an avoidable circumstance! Although I tried to control my emotion, I could not but ponder over some confusing questions. Was there no responsible adult around to take the necessary safety precautions? Was a toddler capable of obeying the instruction in that story?

It was a case of child neglect.  It is wrong to blame the child in such incident for disobedience to the given instruction.  She was yet too young to comprehend the implication of disobeying such an instruction. As a toddler, the will power and concentration to obey the instruction was beyond her ability. A safe option a responsible adult should have in such a circumstance would have been to keep her a safe distance away from where the beef was being cut.

Parents who understand the developmental peculiarities and limitations of children have realistic expectations in their interaction with their children.  Such parents struggle less with their children and take necessary safety measures against accidents. Their children are allowed to gradually develop, and are not distracted with unnecessary blame and criticism arising from targets that are beyond their abilities.

 

-Uchenna N. Nduka

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2 thoughts on “Oh no! She lost three of her fingers in such an avoidable circumstance!

  1. Good morning MA, I totally agree that it could have been avoided if a proper safety measures were taken regarding the toddler present at the scene of incident. This is a remarkable scar that may not be easily forgotten, it’s a call for extraordinary precautions on kids when hazardous activities are being carried out before their very eyes. Thank you very much

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