A female teacher, stood before a group of teenage students to tell them of the expectations of the school from them.
“Now listen!” She yelled.
“Girls will now have dinner by 6.30pm, while boys will have theirs by 7pm. This new rule is for your strict compliance!” She shouted.
“Your parents already know how stubborn you are. Many of you will surely have it very hard with me. As you are aware, punishments in this school are very severe.” She finally asserted.
Surely, the result she got from the students was rebellion. Of course she had a field day meting out punishment to her students and yet achieving little or nothing!
Another teacher in the same circumstance would handle it differently to achieve better results.
“Dear students, we have introduced a new rule which is for your security. Before now boys and girls had dinner together by 7pm. On the average, dinner lasted for about one hour thirty minutes. The girls will now have dinner by 6.30 pm; while the boys will have theirs by 7pm. Dinner for each group will last for only thirty minutes. The proposal for this change came from the security department and the management of this school approved it because it is in our own interest. So, from today the dinning bell will ring by 6.30pm for girls and 7pm for boys. Please everyone should obey this new rule which will start today.”
The first teacher made the announcement with a threat and negative remarks, while the second teacher made the same announcement persuasively and positively. Threats actually pollute the atmosphere of discipline at school or in the home and make children rebellious. Parents and teachers who communicate effectively and positively to children achieve better results than those who ignorantly foreclose obedience from the children through negative remarks. Negative remarks are unnecessary and do not achieve any positive result when talking to children.
- Uchenna n. Nduka