The ability of a person to handle an offence by another person depends on the wisdom and maturity he or she is able to apply. Many relationships that would have flourished have been truncated by perceived wrongs that have been wrongly handled. Examples of such cases are found in failed marriages where a wrong reaction is given to an occurrence as a result of misunderstanding. This analogy is even truer in a parenting relationship where the parent who is the brace is expected to provide endless support to the weak child in all areas of the child’s development. A failed parenting relationship would leave the child without support, sometimes on the streets. Two wrongs indeed will not make right!
Sometimes, the zeal and haste to achieve the parenting targets would becloud parents’ perception of the extent of children’s respective abilities at performing different tasks. This issue may even be worsened by the fact that parents in families who associate closely have the tendency to approach parenting as if there is a competition on whose child is the best-behaved. These developments relegate further into oblivion the proper consideration of the respective unique personality dispositions and abilities of each child in the parenting process. This would, unfortunately, result in unrealistic expectations from children and set the stage for blunder-filled performances by them.
A child’s blunder is therefore a reminder that:
- Children are weak and still need physical, spiritual, emotional, social, and mental support.
- Parents should come closer, love more, talk more and listen more to their children to determine the exact nature and to what extent appropriate support should be provided.
- In the right atmosphere, the child would learn from the effects of his blunder. Our regular readers have understood that this is the ‘rod of correction’ and does not mean whip or corporal punishment.
- As the brace of endless love, parents should devote more time providing and allowing enabling environments and age-appropriate learning experiences. They should also guide, explain, pray and counsel children in order to gradually develop and improve on their abilities for rational judgement.
Happy new year to all passionate parents!
-Uchenna N. Nduka