SEMINAR GUIDE ON THE EDUCATION TO PROTECT THE CHILD FROM SEXUAL ABUSE

Every parent should possess the skill to provide children with the education that will protect them from sexual abuse. I prepared the document below for use in my church and it has impressive results. It can be adapted for use in different environments, as long as its core  contents and methodology of delivery are suitable for the respective age groups. Please let’s all do the best we can to protect our children.

Age: 4-6years

Topic: Parts of the Body

Text and Memory Verse: 1Cor 3:16, 6:19

Message thrust: It is very wrong to let anyone play with your private parts.

Introduction: Question 1: have you ever seen daddy’s chair in the sitting room?   The children will respond.

     Question 2: Will daddy let anyone play with it?                                             The children will respond.  

Today’s message is about parts of our body and the private parts we will not let anyone play with.

Teaching aid:

  • A labeled drawing of the body.
  • A song on parts of the body.

SEQUENCE OF EVENTS

  1. Revise the names of all the parts shown in the drawing.
  2. Guide the children to mention the parts that are private (anus, penis, vagina and breast.) The mouth may be mentioned as a private part with an explanation that germs get into a person’s body if the mouth is played with. This is to protect them from those who may want to kiss them.
  3. State God’s instruction: Don’t allow anyone to play with your private parts. Let them know that it is sin to disobey God’s instruction. God hates sin. God does not want us to be infected with diseases when people play with our private parts.
  4. Mention the things children should do to assist them obey this very important instruction.
  • Wear inner wears always. They should mention the inner wears.
  • Girls should put their legs together when they are sitting or lying down.
  • Don’t wonder off into isolated or dark or noisy places without an adult guide because evil people that will make you to disobey God may be at such places.
  • Wash your private part by yourself when you are bathing. Don’t let anyone do this for you.
  1. What a child should do if anyone attempts to play with his or her private part.
  • Say NO!
  • Report to your parents or teachers immediately.

The teacher should explain that a child in this situation should report so that parents and teachers would protect him from the evil person.

  1. Feedback and further explanations
  2. Call to repentance.
  • The wages of sin and God’s love. (Romans 6:23, 10:9-10))
  • Assurance of salvation. (2 Cor 5:17)
  1. Counseling and Prayers.

 

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Age: 7-9 years

Topic: Sexual abuse of Children.

Text and Memory Verse: 1Cor 3:16, 6:19

Message Thrust: It is very wrong to let anyone play with your private parts.

Introduction: Question 1: what is drug abuse? The children should respond.

Expected answer: Drug abuse is making wrong use of a drug without appropriate instruction from the doctor.

 Today we are going to discuss how to avoid a wrong use of the body against God’s instruction.

Teaching aid:

  • A labeled drawing of the body.
  • A song on parts of the body.

SEQUENCE OF EVENTS

  1. Revise the names of all the parts shown in the drawing.
  2. Guide the children to mention the parts that are private (anus, penis, vagina and breast.) The mouth may be mentioned as a private part with an explanation that germs get into a person’s body if the mouth is played with. This is to protect them from those who may want to kiss them.
  3. State God’s instruction: Don’t allow anyone to play with your private parts. Let them know that it is sin to disobey God’s instruction. God hates sin. God does not want us to be infected with diseases when people play with our private parts.
  4. Sexual abuse is when a person disobeys God’s instruction and decides to play with a child’s private part.
  5. State the implication of sexual abuse.
  • It is sin and every sinful act is punished by God.
  • It exposes a child’s body to infections and diseases.
  1. Mention the things children should do to assist them obey this very important instruction.
  • Wear inner wears always. The children should mention the inner wears.
  • Girls should put their legs together when they are sitting or lying down.
  • Don’t wonder off into isolated or dark or noisy places, especially in the night, without an adult guide because evil people that will make you disobey God may be at such places.
  • Wash your private parts by yourself when you are bathing. Don’t let anyone do this for you.
  • Don’t believe any lie (it is right to do it, everybody is doing it, I cannot do anything wrong to you)
  1. What to do if anyone wants to defile your body.
  • Say NO!
  • Report to your parents or teachers immediately.
  • Scream and put up a frightening resistance if the person insists on going on with this wrong play.

The teacher should explain that it is very important for any child in this situation to report so that his or her parents and teachers will provide protection.

  1. Feedback and further explanations.
  2. Call to repentance
  • The wages of sin and God’s love. (Romans 6:23, 10:9-10))
  • Assurance of salvation. (2 Cor 5:17)
  1. Counseling and Prayers

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Age : 10 years and above.

Text: 2 Samuel: 13:1-19, Genesis 34:1-6, Genesis 39:6-12.

Memory Verse: I Thess4:3

Message thrust: God wants you to say ‘No’ to sex, No matter the pressure.

Introduction:

Question 1. Have you ever seen a teenager who became pregnant, but is not married?      The children should respond.

The teacher should explain that the evil which tempted the pregnant teenager is similar to the evil which tempted the persons in the bible lessons – Tamar, Dinah and Joseph. Tamar and Dinah yielded to sexual immorality against the word of God in I Thesso4:3, while Joseph did not. In today’s study, we will find out how to overcome sexual advances.

Teaching aid:

  • Drawing of a pregnant teenager and a HIV infected teenage boy.

SEQUENCE OF EVENTS

  1. Definition of sexual abuse and sex.
  2. God’s Instructions about sexual relationship (I Thess4:3)
  3. Factors that usually challenge children’s decision to obey God’s instruction on sex.
  4. Who are those who put pressure on children to disobey God’s instructions on sexual relationships?
  5. Strategies applied by those who want to make children disobey the word of God on this issue.
  6. Consequences of not obeying God on this issue.
  7. Benefits of obeying God by abstaining from sex.
  8. Things to be careful about to avoid falling into sexual immorality like Tamar and Dinah.
  9. The Refusal Technique.

 Teachers notes on the study questions

  1. Sex “the physical contact between people which involves touching or playing with each other’s body especially the private parts”. Sexual abuse is when an adult disobeys God’s instruction and decides to play with a child’s private part.
  2. I Thess 4:3
  3. Ignorance, peer pressure, financial hardship, vulnerability, the mass media, bad company. Vulnerable children include step children, house helps, children entrusted in the care of people outside their nuclear families, or are enjoying one form of assistance or sponsorship from people who are not their biological parents.
  4. ANYONE with an evil mind. The teacher should guide the children to mention all the people they relate with daily. School teachers, Principals, church teachers, Doctors, Neighbours, Parents, uncles and aunties.
  5. lies, Unsolicited favour, coaxing, threats, blackmail, force.
  6. Early parenthood, abortion, Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD), abnormal anxiety, haunting secrecy, low self esteem, and disruption of educational pursuits, Vesico Vaginal Fistula [VVF], death, infertility in marriage and so on.
  7. The class should mention all that they will be free from if they obey God on this issue.
  8. They include gifts, the materials they, read, the TV programmes they watch, the things they eat, the places they go to.
  • Don’t keep any sexual advance secret. Confide in someone to assist you, especially Teachers and parents.
  • Don’t read Sex infected materials or watch sex infected films.
  • Don’t be hasty in accepting gifts. Let your parents know when gifts are offered.
  • Don’t drink or eat when you are alone with someone you don’t trust.
  • Don’t go to wrong places including isolated places, noisy environments, evil gatherings.
  • Avoid staying outside your home in the night.

Carefulness will reduce and not exclude it completely. That is why we will look at the refusal technique.

  1. Refusal technique:
  • Say “No”, without explanation.
  • Repeat the “No”
  • Leave the scene.
  • If you are prevented from leaving, scream and put up frightening resistance.
  • Confide in someone
  1. Feedback and further explanations.
  2. Call to repentance.
  • The wages of sin and God’s love. (Romans 6:23, 10:9-10))
  • Assurance of salvation. (2 Cor 5:17)
  1. Counseling and Prayer.

 

 

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